60-second answer
Use net product revenue, excluding tax.
For order-level profitability, start with product revenue after discounts and mature refunds or sales reversals. Exclude tax. Show customer-paid shipping and shipping cost explicitly when they are material. Use the same basis for order value, contribution margin, and the attributed revenue being judged.
Model choice: This is ROAS Break's decision-model default, not a universal accounting standard. Keep a different basis only when every compared input uses it consistently and the business reason is documented.
Set a target from a defined basis